Auto merge of #112431 - Urgau:cast_ref_to_mut_improvments, r=Nilstrieb

Improve `invalid_reference_casting` lint

This PR is a follow-up to rust-lang/rust#111567 and rust-lang/rust#113422.

This PR does multiple things:
 - First it adds support for deferred de-reference, the goal is to support code like this, where the casting and de-reference are not done on the same expression
    ```rust
    let myself = self as *const Self as *mut Self;
    *myself = Self::Ready(value);
    ```
 - Second it does not lint anymore on SB/TB UB code by only checking assignments (`=`, `+=`, ...) and creation of mutable references `&mut *`
 - Thirdly it greatly improves the diagnostics in particular for cast from `&mut` to `&mut` or assignments
 - ~~And lastly it renames the lint from `cast_ref_to_mut` to `invalid_reference_casting` which is more consistent with the ["rules"](rust-lang/rust-clippy#2845) and also more consistent with what the lint checks~~ *rust-lang/rust#113422

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r? compiler

Author: bors

core/src/cell.rs

@@ -1893,7 +1893,8 @@ impl<T: ?Sized + fmt::Display> fmt::Display for RefMut<'_, T> {
 /// on an _exclusive_ `UnsafeCell<T>`. Even though `T` and `UnsafeCell<T>` have the
 /// same memory layout, the following is not allowed and undefined behavior:
 ///
-/// ```rust,no_run
+#[cfg_attr(bootstrap, doc = "```rust,no_run")]
+#[cfg_attr(not(bootstrap), doc = "```rust,compile_fail")]
 /// # use std::cell::UnsafeCell;
 /// unsafe fn not_allowed<T>(ptr: &UnsafeCell<T>) -> &mut T {
 ///   let t = ptr as *const UnsafeCell<T> as *mut T;