fix: Correctly use documented defaults for streams resource creates, updates and deletes

[jwongmongodb]

Description

Currently the streams connection CREATEs, UPDATEs and DELETES are using the system default 3 hour timeouts instead of the documented 20 minute timeouts. We should correctly propagate those documented defaults. Also including a driveby to remove the PENDING 404 state transition that is invalid from the CREATE connection flow.

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• Documentation fix/enhancement

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